Thoughts and ideas on what goes into living our lives fully and happily. There are no set answers here, just some observations of life and living that hopefully can help you to see things in a positive light!
31 October 2023
Not Teaching Skills--A Paragraph a Day
30 October 2023
Trees--A Paragraph a Day
25 October 2023
Karma--A Paragraph a Day
Every action of our lives touches on some chord that will vibrate in eternity.
Edwin Hubbel Chapin
It's hard sometimes to remind myself of this fact. It's easy to forget the importance of our actions--each and every one of them. And I think that our unwillingness to act is in itself an action, or at least a decision, that will reverberate in our lives for a very long time. If I speak kind words to my wife today, I'm adding to the positive energy of the world, for sure. If I think about saying something kind and I decide not to do so, what kind of effect will that have on my life? We know the effects of neglect on young people, of course, and we know the effects of neglect on spouses and other people that we care for. But is the decision to not say something that could be positive something that affects our karma, something that affects the world in which we live, even if in the slightest of ways? I think that if I think of an action that will be positive for me or for anyone else, it's important to follow through with it and add that positivity to the world, and add that positive karma to my own life. We get only one life, and I think that if I have the goal of making it as positive as I can, then I can only be sure of positivity by taking my own actions rather than waiting for something positive to come from some other source.
24 October 2023
Enlightened?--A Paragraph a Day
can be achieved only through persistent exercise of real love.
-M. Scott Peck
I want to be enlightened, really I do. But to be quite honest, I have to admit that I don't think I know what it means to be enlightened. I've read a lot about it and I've talked to a lot of people about it, but even after decades of thinking about wanting to be enlightened, I truly have no real idea of how close I may be to--or how far away from--the state that I really want to reach. I can't even define it, which means that there's a decent chance that I already am enlightened, depending on the definition. I definitely wouldn't give myself credit for that, but I have to remember that if I don't even know the definition of something like enlightenment, then who knows if I'm there or not? Personally, I'm going to do my best to keep working towards enlightenment by doing my best to be kind, by doing my best to be loving, by doing my best to be compassionate and considerate and mindful. It's not that difficult to do if I truly commit myself to doing so--it just takes a series of decisions about what I'm going to do and how I'm going to do it. Perhaps one day I'll reach the state and actually know that I've reached it, but for now, I'll just keep working at it.
23 October 2023
What Is Good?--A Paragraph a Day
20 October 2023
Very, Very Early--A Paragraph a Day
I went running just before four this morning. It's one of the most wonderful things in the world, to go running super early like that when the world around me is mostly still asleep and everything's quiet and peaceful. It's also one of the more difficult things in the world, actually putting on my shorts and shirt and socks and shoes and stepping out the door into the cold in order to run five miles or so before I've even truly woken up. I wish it were easy to get up super early and to get outside and run in the brisk morning air because if it were easy, I'd do it all the time. Unfortunately, though, going out and running isn't usually what I most feel like doing when I first get up. I like eating breakfast, for example, and drinking a cup of coffee, and relaxing a bit to try to get myself mentally ready for the day ahead. Once I get out there and I'm into the run, it's a great experience, but it sure tends to be rough getting started. It's like a lot of things in life--I end up loving it and it's certainly good for me and I have a great sense of accomplishment once I've finished the run, but getting started seems to take an inordinate amount of effort, mostly mentally. So many things in life are like this, and I recognized the pattern in many things that I've done and that I haven't done--sometimes things are so hard to get started that I simply don't get started at all, so I never get the chance to love doing them, and I never get the sense of satisfaction from having done them. My hope is that as life goes on I miss fewer and fewer things because I'm afraid to start them--I need to take more balanced risks as I get older, not fewer, for now is a time of my life when I've spent years learning how to deal with setbacks when and if they happen.
18 October 2023
A Generous Day--A Paragraph a Day
I'd like this day of mine to be a generous one. When the day is over some hours from now, I'd like to look back on it and be able to think about times when I was generous to someone else. Of course, if that's how I want the day to end, then it's important that I make a conscious effort to be generous for the next fourteen hours or so, isn't it? I'm going to have a lot of opportunities to be generous, by sharing whatever I have, by sharing compliments and encouragement, even possibly by overlooking some fault or mistake of another person and fixing a problem myself. At my school, sometimes being generous concerns picking up some trash in the cafeteria so that the janitor doesn't have to do so, and I make his job just a bit easier. Of course, if I do so, I don't want to tell him that I did, for then my action is less about being generous and more about wanting thanks for my "generous" action. I can be generous with my time by listening to someone who seems to need to talk--even if I had something to say that I thought was very important. When all is said and done, of course, my listening is almost always more generous than my talking. So can I do it? Can I make this a generous day? I certainly hope so, and now that I'm thinking about it, perhaps it will be easier for me to do so. Wish me luck!
16 October 2023
Taking Care of Myself, part two--A Paragraph a Day
Taking a hot bath is a wonderfully relaxing thing for me to do, but when I add music with positive, love-filled music, it gets even better. In the tub yesterday evening, I heard songs that are peaceful and inspiring and uplifting. I try to find all of the uplifting music I can that's good, that's pleasant to listen to. Some of it is upbeat and energetic, and that's not the kind of music that helps me to relax in the tub so I listen to it at other times. Music is one of the most important parts of my life, and I've finally figured out why--our family moved rather constantly when I was young, and the music on the radio was the only constant that I had other than my family members, and we were quite dysfunctional. But when we moved from San Diego to Norfolk, for example, the songs that I had been listening to in California were the same ones that were playing in Virginia when we got there, and I was able to feel a sense of stability and connection. I had left behind all my friends and everything else that was familiar to me, but at least I had the songs. And now that I have a collection of songs that help me to think of the beauty and wonder of life, I'm able to listen to them when I need to fill my mind with something positive. Try listening to Dolly Parton's "Everything Is Beautiful" sometime and see whether or not you feel just a little bit better when the song is through. Kelley Hunt's "Miracle" is another one that I can listen to often, as is Alison Krauss' "Simple Love." We need to fill our minds with as much positivity as possible if we want to live positive lives, and music can be a wonderful way to do just that.
15 October 2023
Taking Care of Myself--A Paragraph a Day
14 October 2023
Dinner Out--A Paragraph a Day
13 October 2023
Kind Today--A Paragraph a Day
12 October 2023
Are We Losing Hope?--A Paragraph a Day
Sometimes I think that hope is becoming scarce in our world. We see so much suffering and we experience so many setbacks that many people are finding it hard even to imagine that the future holds anything better. This seems to be especially true among our young people, who don't make enough money even to afford to rent their own homes, much less buy them. People continue to do the best they can, but that often isn't enough, and they end up being in dire straits even though they've done everything they can to do things right. Many young people have become cynical, and rather than looking at the future with hope that it will be better than today is, they think of the future as more of the same--or even worse. So many people are just one disaster or sickness or car breakdown away from being in serious financial trouble that they're much more afraid than they are hopeful. How can we help them? Of course, we can't just give them money to make them feel more secure, and we can't buy homes for them or pay their rent, but what can we do to try to bring hope back to them? Empty promises of things getting better won't help, nor will insincere encouraging words. Personally, I don't have the answer, but it's a question worth pondering and exploring: How can we reignite hope in others? What can we do to help others to see their futures in bright and positive terms? I'll keep thinking about this problem, and hopefully others will, too.
10 October 2023
Letting the World Go On--A Paragraph a Day
Does it ever seem that the world is simply too overwhelming for us? Does it seem that so many terrible things happen that it's not possible to stay happy if we really do feel compassion for the people to whom those terrible things are happening? Does it seem unfair that we're sitting warm and comfortable in our homes while so many people are living through war and extreme poverty and crime and homelessness and goodness knows what else? Sometimes it seems like that to me, and at those times I have to remember that my world is my world, and there's much to be grateful for here. I don't have any influence at all on other people in other parts of the world, other than the amount that I donate each month to a particular charity (our personal charity is Doctors without Borders, though there are many others who do just as much good, if not more). And I remind myself that if I were in a terrible situation, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone else, so those people who are living in better conditions could do me the best favor of all by truly appreciating their blessings while they have them. The world will go on, and terrible things will continue to happen--and I'm not a terrible person for appreciating the food that I have, the shelter that I have, the blessings that I have. We can't all be everywhere, saving everyone from adversity, but we can develop a sincere appreciation for the gifts that we have, for they truly are blessings, especially in light of the adversity that so many others are facing every day that we live.
09 October 2023
War. Again. --A Paragraph a Day
07 October 2023
My Freedoms--A Paragraph a Day
This year's Nobel Peace Prize was awarded to Narges Mohammadi, an Iranian civil rights activist who's in an Iranian prison, and who will stay there for the foreseeable future. She's an incredibly courageous woman who isn't afraid to speak out against the current "leaders" of the country, no matter the personal danger to herself. Her case and her courage make me think about the freedoms that I have in my day-to-day life, the choices that I'm able to make every single day without fear of being beaten and/or arrested for wearing the wrong clothes or not covering my hair or saying the wrong thing to the wrong person. The freedoms that I have are many, no matter what limitations I also face, and it's important that I not just appreciate them, but that I take advantage of them to do things that can make a difference in this world. In my case, I try to make the differences as a teacher and as a writer, and in both of those fields I know that I enjoy more freedoms than most people in the world enjoy, and I try to make those freedoms count in my efforts to pass on knowledge of the topics that I've studied deeply, and about which I've learned a lot myself. If I don't take advantage of those freedoms, then I feel that I'm doing a great disservice to wonderfully courageous human beings like Narges Mohammadi. I can't go over to Iran and get her and others out of prison or change their life situations to make their lives better, but I can do my best to take advantage of the freedoms that I do have to try to make this world a better place, even in the slightest of ways.
06 October 2023
Other People's Judgment--A Paragraph a Day
04 October 2023
Taking Things for Granted--A Paragraph a Day
03 October 2023
Some Situations Just Aren't Winnable--A Paragraph a Day
02 October 2023
Here. Now. --A Paragraph a Day
Otherwise you will miss most of your life. ~the Buddha
Where am I right now? What's around me? How many of us can answer that question truthfully and fully for most of the moments we experience? It's so easy to be so busy and so distracted that we become blind to all of the beauty and kindness that's always present in our lives, and to believe those other people in our lives who tell us that life is stressful and frustrating and difficult and unfair. But if we can just be aware of our present moments, if we can just stop now and then and look around and listen and feel to make sure we're not missing something normally wonderful, then we can add something profoundly moving to our lives. Right here and right now are the only moments of our lives that we have to actually live, and that's something that we really need to take advantage of if we're to make the most of these lives that we have.