Probably the most difficult thing that I ever had to teach myself in life was the fact that I was–and am–lovable. I grew up thinking that I was completely unlovable, that no one would ever love me, that there was somehow something wrong with me that made it impossible to love me. And with that thought buried deeply within me, guess how I always acted around other people? I acted as if they never could love me. And since I acted that way and felt that way, guess how other people saw me? As pretty unlovable, believe it or not.
But something that I’ve learned in the meantime is that I am lovable–that we all are lovable children of God, that we all have lovable qualities that make us truly unique. Learning this was a great shock to me, for I had to include myself in the “all” category. And if I were lovable, then guess what? I didn’t need to have someone else be in love with me in order for me to know that I’m lovable. It’s a pretty liberating realization to make, especially for someone like me who never considered himself to be lovable at all.
Some people have problems on the other end of the spectrum and consider themselves to be much more irresistable than they really are. It’s really quite a similar problem, though in a different way. But many of us have a hard time thinking that other people can actually love us, and learning–and accepting–that we are lovable is a very important part of our growth as human beings. After all, why and how would God ever create a being that is completely unlovable? It just doesn’t make sense. If God made us, then what are we saying about God when we claim that we’re not good enough for people to love us?
You’re lovable, too. Have you looked at yourself as a lovable person lately? What do you see when you do? How do you feel when you do? It’s a great feeling to know that we’re lovable, and I hope that you treat yourself to that feeling as often as possible. You may not be truly loved by the people you wish would love you, but that’s a question of just finding the right people who do love you, who do appreciate you for just who and what you are. And it won’t be until you admit and accept that you are lovable that you’ll truly love yourself–and it won’t be until you truly love yourself that you’ll be able to love anyone else truly, without condition. When we realize these facts, it becomes imperative that we reach a point at which we see and feel ourselves as lovable. A lot depends on our ability to do this!